Question marks of Life

I was reading someones blog this morning and it inspired me to think more in depth. It allowed me to look at the essentials in life, that we seem to overlook, as a critical endeavor. We need to begin to analyze them to a degree in which we can find the truth. Find the truth as to why we fear questions? Why we ultimately fear vulnerability? In a way this blog relates to my latest blog 'Plastic Faces'. Such simplistic relations like someone pretending to know the ins and outs of everything when in reality they clearly do not...

Now it may seem ironic asking a question about questions, but I find it suitable for the topic. Ultimately I don't know the answer...therefore; I am merely attempting to develop a rationale behind it and in order to do that I need to learn. I need YOU to help me develop this mindset...my underlying goal is to learn. (Something people lack the drive and ability to do anymore these days)

Questions-what are they really? Are they a way to find an answer or are they merely a way to get to know your surroundings, to get to know someone, or even a simplistic way to get to know yourself? The words "I know I hesitate some times to ask even the simplest questions because we as people love to portray confidence and knowledge." were stated in this blog. This statement-as hard as it is to admit-is true for 95% of today's population. Why is it that if we do not know how to do something, we attempt to pretend to know rather than just asking for a hand? We are so consumed in desiring confidence, knowledge, acceptance, and superiority that we lack the ability to admit we need help. It's like we have all built these walls with no windows. We don't want anyone else to see us vulnerable, to see us lack the knowledge to do something. But when you think about it, don't you want to take the opportunity to LEARN how to do that something rather than go through life never knowing? It's like everyone's fear gets in the way of them prospering in life.

Which brings me to my next thought...The picture of a crowded elevator at the top of this blog intrigued me. One question I would like to ask you all is, why are we so fearful to ask others questions about themselves? Why do we not give strangers the opportunity to tell their story? Think about it...Close your eyes and picture walking in Times Square on a Friday afternoon. It's crazy- hundreds of people walking in a fuzz, while hundreds more are in yellow taxi cabs, speeding cars, and buses driving by...That amounts to thousands of people...Imagine how many potential stories there are in one area of the world. Imagine the possibility and the caliber of knowledge one could attain from asking each of those individuals a question about themselves. Yet again, fear has intruded into our lives and has made us incapable of letting go. It's caused us to fear developing a sincere connection with someone-right or wrong-our insecurities cause us to lose out on the potential of an amazing thing. Think of all you could learn from ONE person let alone thousands of them...or even a world of them... It's sad to me how we don't venture into giving people the chance, a mere moment in your life to answer a question. We look strangers in the eyes and really only see the fact that they are a stranger and we avoid any possible confrontation, any unsafe possibilities it may come with. Rather if we took an in depth look into someones soul we could see how each and every person has a life story. They are too someones brother, mother, father, daughter, niece, son, grandmother, best friend, enemy, etc. etc.

When you look at your life, what do you see? I see 21 years of being a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a cousin, a niece, and a friend. It's been 21 years of adventure. 21 years of ups and downs that we call life, all of which I have been lucky enough to learn new things I never deemed possible. Now if you asked every person what they saw their life encompassing, wouldn't you find it incredible to hear their personal stories? What THEY have learned, who they have met..who they are and who they want to be? I know I would. To think by asking someone a simple question we could learn all this...So why don't we? It's time to disregard any insecurities we may have. It's time to give others a chance to make an impact, and ultimately a difference in our lives. It's time to ask questions...It's time to "gain an honest trust" as Kyle says in his blog. In order to do this we need to let go of our boundaries and venture into the unknown...As this new year approaches-think twice about the person who grazes your shoulder as they walk past you. Think twice about the individual holding the door open for you on your busy lunch hour, think twice about the girl on the subway crying. Everyone has their own story to tell-give them a chance to tell it...Embrace the knowledge this world has the ability to give you...Embrace the hearts that surround you. You never know, someone could change your life-or better yet YOU could change someone else's life...

xoxo
Perfectly Imperfect
Crystal Kimberly

Oh and check out Kyle's blog-He's got some amazing things to say that could provide you with the answers to YOUR life questions...
http://www.kyleroeger.tumblr.com

Plastic Faces

When you walk out into world wouldn't you like to think that every person that passes by is a genuine, whole-hearted, 'real' person? Unfortunately that is far from reality. As you endeavor into new chapters of your life, you will run into many familiar as well as many new faces. The challenge that lies here is your ability to differentiate between those you should trust and those whom you should not. One thing I have learned thus far in life is that there are rarely true, real, good-hearted people in this world. Embracing the ones you find is a something extraordinary. It's something worthy of time consumption and maintaining. However; as it may seem like people are sincere in life, most unfortunately are consumed by the 'ideal/perfect' world media and masks have conceptualized over the years. Whether it's the way people act, feel, portray themselves, look, etc. Ultimately I think its time for a foundation to be built of what people NEED to take the time to look into in order to know what life really is and not what life is masquerading behind in news titles, heartbreaks, or plastic surgery.

It's actually quite sad how people lose themselves in fear of not being the 'norm'. They change who they are inside and out in order to be like the next person rather than embodying who they truly are. We've been accustomed to a world where everyone sees how people are accepted only when they look a certain way, act in a particular manner, or come from a certain family name. What ever happened to being unique? What happened to being who we wanted to be. To being an original? I never thought people would ever get to the point where they were afraid to be themselves. What is normal anyway? The media has formed this unattainable, flawless image that people sadly feel they need to live up to in order to be normal. But really, I disagree completely. Normal? There is no such thing. Everyone is their own person and it is okay to say 'I am who I am, and I am proud of it.' Screw what everyone else thinks of you. Why lose your morals, your loves, your dreams- just because someone else thinks they aren't right? What's right is being happy. I say we stop tormenting our souls with questions on how we can 'fit in' and rather we defer from it. We should strive to be different.

However; People continue to subdue to this fake environment. Thus they begin to do anything to be successful and to put themselves first. Losing who you are comes with consequences. These fake individuals portray to be someone they are obviously not and in the process they throw those around them under the bus. They judge when they have no right to judge. They minuscule what others want out of life in hopes they can begin to overtake. They forget what they love and they masquerade themselves behind material things in order to make up for a lack of personality. Ultimately there are a lot of people who are focused on their cruel intentions rather than on the good in the world. Sad, but true. Think about it...Why is everyone looking to be the same? Why can't we put all aside and grow in an individualistic way. Forget the redundancy, stop wishing you were something else, and be YOU. Who cares what other people say. Bottom line is just because others say something is right or wrong doesn't mean they are right. Only you know who you truly are and what you really want. So embracing that is up to YOU. Don't place blame on others for what you have become, don't not be you because of your ultimate fear of not being accepted. Who cares?! My motto is 'Do you.' and that's it. It's the only way to be 'real'. It's the only way to not get caught up in the plastic realm of life. So if you want change...you need to go out there and make change for yourself. You can't wait for it to happen in fake atrocities. Its up to you and your heart to find yourself for who you really are...It's your life...so take control....

xoxo
Perfectly Imperfect
Crystal Kimberly

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"Music is only love looking for words..."
-Lawrence Durrell

I'm caught in a spiderweb of questions
Heartbreak left without expressions-

A word can mean much more
Ideally what your searching for-

A bruise isn't just a bruise
And love isnt't that of which you choose-

While a broken puzzle can be left in the dust
And a beating heart readies to combust-

Those who realize your pieces are worth replacing
Are those worth the ultimate chasing-

We sometimes fear any new endeavor
For it may result in an imperfect forevor-

Until that trust embeds in your soul
Your mind over your heart takes the ultimate control-



xoxo
Perfectly Imperfect
Crystal Kimberly